The ego runs on the selection of predictable patterns as the basis of its thought system is judgment whose origin stems from sin, fear and guilt. Judgment is definitely one or another. As you perceive a brother through judgment, you’ll project and judge on that brother and soon you perceive the outcomes back. Once those results are perceived, you will use perception repeatedly to project and judge them a lot more.
Unfortunately, this uses both sides of the ego wrong mind and compounds the initial error until the facts are well hidden. Handing over judgments for correction (forgiveness) stops the cycle.
Holy Relationships:
The ego uses special love and hate relationships, and also specialness (being different), to keep the illusion of separation going. Usage of these kind of relationships as cause, can be the ego mind as cause; and the result is to continue separation between brothers because they’re using the original separation. Remember cause and effect: The mind you choose from, as cause, can lead to the corresponding consequences (effect).
This is simply not about you having to be alone or avoid relationships in life. It is, however, all about how you enter and use them within the mind.
a course in miracles online The choice which will set you free would be to choose to have your relationships be Holy Relationships. You need to be the person practicing forgiveness in all of your relationships, even though you are the only 1. It is “special” until you turn it “Holy.” To see another as a brother, a prerequisite to going home, is True Perception which shines a light of truth on you both. The ego cannot prevail against Oneness because it is not real.
Form and Content:
A TRAINING COURSE in Miracles (ACIM) is quite clear that form will not matter. There is nothing in ACIM about behavior so when you judge a brother on his or her behavior, this is the same side of the ego mind. They may be acting from the ego “wrong” mind; nevertheless, you are judging from the ego “right” mind. To the ego, one judgment is the same as any other.
What the Course says is that content matters. Content may be the mind. ACIM concerns itself with you understanding that you can choose the Holy Spirit Right Mind as your internal Teacher thereby producing a different cause and effect.
What you or another does in form (behavior) does not matter. However here are two questions to consider:
When I acted, did I act from the Holy Spirit Right Mind? (Content)
Is my interpretation of my buddy from the Holy Spirit Right Mind? (Content)
You won’t have peace if you don’t can answer “yes” to both. Choose again if you want to. It is never too late.
There is ONLY 1 of Us:
When you judge a brother, you are using the ego mind as cause for that judgment to become a real effect. Because of this , we emphasize that what you see in another should be forgiven in yourself first. Here’s why: (1) You cannot see fault (judgment) in another unless you chose from that portion of the split mind in the first place; (2) You cannot judge what you don’t already believe to be true as it is using the mind you chose from; and (3) Judgment about another is a statement of the guilt retained in your mind from the initial separation because you are choosing to use the ego mind. It is what your location is still holding onto fear and guilt instead of choosing correction (forgiveness) for the truth.
Absolutely anyone who shows up and you with to be able to heal your mind is a gift you need to use. Turn it right into a Holy Relationship. This is one way you will return your personal mind to God, and how others eventually see it for themselves. Contain the light of forgiveness which gives all minds a chance to create a different choice. Judge and they run and hide further into darkness and error.
A Call for Love:
Attack is really a conscious mind behavior predicated on projection, judgment and perception. The ego’s point is to protect separate identity and therefore, all attack is often a demand love, or forgiveness, that is joining. The more determined you are to know the truth about yourself and a brother, the more you will choose against the ego’s attacks in favor of correction (forgiveness) from the Right Mind.
Responding with love often means a lot of things and sometimes, it could even mean no response. Other times, you may want a boundary or to take some action. To respond with love, you absolutely must be practicing forgiveness and using the Right Mind to turn over-all attack and judgment. The Holy Spirit will give you a solution if you completely turn to that Right Mind for help. “Completely” is the key word.
Eventually you see no attack (error) occurred and that is to know the truth about you and your brother. There is absolutely no defense necessary (“defenselessness” on the Split Mind diagram). Once you share your willingness not to see error, you have shared what you would like to keep and learn on your own. What you share you discover you have.
Sharing:
Sharing means to allow yourself to share with another what you need them to possess. Your only reason behind doing this is because it is what you want to have on your own. You are teaching them what you would like to be yours. Teaching is instruction of ideas and principles. Do this and you will find you have it because you’ve literally said, “Surrender to me what I’ve taught you.”
